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Quizzes & Assessments


Goal Setting Worksheets:
1. 10 Categories: Use this 10 category goal setting worksheet to identify what you want for your lifetime. Having a hard time thinking of goals? Use the questions on the last page to help.

2. Lifelong Goals Worksheet: By working backward from old age to your current age you can see that the direction you take in life now can directly affect your life at 70. Use this worksheet to help give your life purpose and guidance in a world full of options.
Feeling Words Chart: We all know simple feeling words, happy, sad, mad. Use this Feelings Words Worksheet for those times where a simple word just doesn’t describe the feelings accurately enough.
Relationship Goals Worksheet: What is your vision for a relationship? If you don’t know then how do you know what you’re looking for? How will you know if you’ve found it? Use this worksheet to get clear on what you want and how you prepare yourself to get the relationship you desire.
Values Identification Worksheet: When we find ourselves not knowing who we are, this is a great start. Identify what you value as a way to reintroduce yourself to this ever changing you.
Yes, No, Maybe List: Welcome to the sex menu! This is a fun way to learn about each others sexual boundaries so you can make your sex the most fulfilling it can be. First, fill out the guide at the same time as but on a separate sheet of paper from your partner. If you are into something it’s a YES. If not, it’s a NO. If you’re unsure or want more information it’s a MAYBE. Second, sit with your partner and share answers.


– Assisted Loving: The Journey Through Sexuality and Aging by Ginger Manley
AARP Aging Resources
– Hope Springs (Movie)
– Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex by Joan Price
5 Changes to Expect for Your Senior Sex Life
Anxiety and Depression Association of America
Relaxation Exercises
– The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. Bourne
– Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks by Barry McDonagh
Do you suffer from an anxiety disorder?
Asexuality Groups
– The Trevor Project: Asexuality 101
AVEN: The Asexual Visibility and Education Network
– The Invisible Orientation by Julie Sondra decker
Attachment Theory:
– How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
– Secure Love by Julie Menanno
– Anxiously Attached by Jessica Baum
Becoming A Therapist:
– Let’s Talk About Sex: Real Stories from a Therapist’s Office by Ann-Marlene Henning
– Becoming Myself by Irvin D. Yalom
– The Gift of Therapy by Irvin D. Yalom
– Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
– The Family Crucible by Augustus Napier and Carl Whitaker
How to Become a Sex Therapist
Black Mental Health:
Black Emotional and Mental Health Collective
Black Youth Matters
Harriets Apothecary Blog
National Queer and Trans Therapists of Color
– Instagram @nedratawwab
Breakups and Divorce:
– Choosing ME Before for We: Every Woman’s Guide to Life and Love by Christine Arulo
– The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations for Codependents by Melody Beattie
– Something Gained by Deb Purdy
– Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas
– The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin
Headspace for meditation (also Netflix has a headspace meditation show)
– Instagram @yourbreakupbestie
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy & Cognitive Processing Therapy:
ABC Worksheet
Challenging Questions Worksheet
Patterns of Problematic Thinking Worksheet
Challenging Beliefs Worksheet
PTSD Weekly Assessment
– See “Attachment Theory”
– The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
– The Sex Starved Marriage by Michele Davice-Weiner
– Reconcilable Differences by Andrew Christensen, Brian D. Doss, and Neil S. Jacobson
– The Seven Levels of Intimacy by Matthew Kelley
Ripped Bodice Bookstore (Small Business for Romantic/Erotic Books)
– Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship by Snyder Stephen
Working on Your Relationship Alone
How distressed is your marriage?
Coral: App with guided lessons in sexual health
Yes, No, Maybe List
Relationship Goals Worksheet
Ian Kerner on Desire Discrepancy
Come As You Are Podcast on Desire Discrepancy (watch above video first)
– Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
Relationship Goals Worksheet
– Instagram @togethernesstherapy
Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance
My Depression (The Up and Down of It): Movie
– What to Do When Someone You Love is Depressed by Susan Goland & Mitch Golant
Are you depressed?
Domestic Abuse / Intimate Partner Abuse:
The National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7 Confidential)
CAVCB You can receive compensation if you have been a victim of a crime and have a police report number (or are willing to make a police report)
Female Sexuality:
– Come As You Are: The Surprising Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
Labia Library
10 Things You Don’t Know About Orgasm
Pelvic Floor Intro
Coral: App with guided lessons in sexual health
Come As You Are Podcast
Los Angeles LGBT Center Health Resources
Asexuality Documentary
– The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World by Alan Downs
Are you asexual?
Coral: App with guided lessons in sexual health
– National Queer & Trans Therapists of Color Network: Mental Health Funds
Male Sexuality:
– The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships and Live Their Fullest Lives by Lewis Howes
Size Fact & Fictions
Coral: App with guided lessons in sexual health
Come As You Are Podcast
Normalizing Non-Monogamy Podcast
– The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything you Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love by Dedeker Winston
– Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan
Premarital Counseling:
– The Conscious Bride: Women Unveil Their True Feelings about Getting Hitched by Sheryl Paul
Self Esteem:
Self Esteem Poem “I Am Me”
Goal Setting
– The Self-Esteem Workbook Book by Glenn R. Schiraldi
Senior Sex:
– Assisted Loving bu Ginger Manley
– Naked at Our Age by Joan Price
Sex/Porn Addiction or Compulsive Sexual Behavior:
– Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes
– Find SLAA Meetings Near You
Porn Related Sexual Dysfunctions
How Long Does it Take to Recover From Porn Addiction?
Sexual Assault Survivors:
– The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
– The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
– (TRIGGER WARNING) 10 Sessions Podcast
Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN)
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
CalVCB You can receive compensation if you have been a victim of a crime and have a police report number (or are willing to make a police report)
Helping Survivors of Sexual Abuse & Assault
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
Other Resources:
National Institute of Mental Health
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)
Alcohol Rehab Help
Art With Impact
Find a Therapist (Other than Togetherness Therapy):
Low Fee Counseling – Open Counseling
Low fee Counseling – Open Path
Black Psychotherapists
QTPoC Therapists
Spanish Speaking Therapists
AASECT Certified Sex Therapists
– All other needs can be found using filters on

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