Written by: Rachel Thomas
Looking to bring novelty and excitement into your relationship?
Sex games are a creative way for couples to break routine, discover new desires, and foster stronger emotional and physical connection. Whether your relationship is new or long-term, adding a sense of play can spark fresh excitement and deeper intimacy.
Why try sex games together?
Adding play and creativity in the bedroom helps couples
- Break routine and bring new excitement
- Communicate preferences and fantasies in a safe, low-pressure way
- Build trust, confidence, and emotional connection
- Reduce anxiety and turn intimacy into an enjoyable adventure
By stepping outside your comfort zone with games, you and your partner can explore desires, laugh together, and embrace vulnerability, all while having fun.
Game ideas to try at home
Strip Card Game
Turn any card game into a sexy experience by removing a piece of clothing with each round.
Simon Says
Take turns giving each other commands, like “Simon says kiss my neck.” If someone acts without hearing “Simon says,” a fun consequence follows such as a massage.
Sensation Play with Blindfolds
Use household items to create different sensations on your partner’s skin. Take turns, then have your partner guess the items or simply enjoy the experience.
Sex “Chore” Box
Write sexual activities or positions on slips of paper. Take turns drawing one out and try it together. Set a routine for picking new “chores.”
Naked Cooking
Prepare a simple meal together wearing nothing. While the food bakes, focus on each other until the timer goes off, then finish your date with dinner.
DIY Jenga
Customize Jenga blocks with flirty questions or dares. Each time a piece is pulled, a new activity or question sparks conversation and connection.
Temperature Play
Experiment with ice cubes, cool water, warmed massage oil, or body-safe candle wax. Always communicate and prioritize safety when playing with temperature.
Paint Night
Use body-safe or edible paint and create art on each other’s skin. Lay down a tarp, paint, and embrace the mess and color.
Best You’ve Ever Had
Give each other a hand massage and provide feedback about what feels best. Use these cues to build toward more intimate or sensual touch.
New Position Challenge
Find new positions together online, list the ones you both want to try, and make a schedule to explore one at a time.
Sex games help couples feel safe and empowered to experiment.
They turn anxiety into anticipation and create space to express desires without judgment. If you prefer ready-made games, visit a local adult store or browse online shops together for inspiration.
Adult Store Recommendations
- Los Angeles: The Pleasure Chest, Lovers, Cupids Closet
- Orange County: Lovers, Romantix, Couples Mega Outlet
- Northern CA: Good Vibrations, Feelmore Adult Gallery, Hustler
- Online: Peppertogether, bboutique, lelo
How Togetherness Therapy Can Help
Our therapists guide couples in exploring new ways to connect, improving communication about intimacy, and overcoming routine or obstacles in the bedroom. We help you feel supported, confident, and ready to create a more joyful sex life together.